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Stand Firm, Grow or Fly Free with Balanced Negative and Positive Core Beliefs
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Topics covered in the new 2021 book “Advanced Core Belief Balancing”
Identifying and recognising your own core beliefs and belief patterns
At this point, you may not even know if you have core belief problems or patterns, but something brought you to this web site. For a start does this sound a bit like you?
1. Introduction - What is a negative Core belief? and
Why it is not easy to recognise your Core beliefs
Examples of negative core beliefs - is yours on this list?
This book explains where core beliefs come from and how a simple process - core belief balancing will help you avoid those automatic or triggered over reactions.
2. Typical over-reactions - the 'F' patterns
One of the most difficult problems I face is when I over-react, those times when I find myself triggered into an automatic response that ends up causing the problems. Afterwards I ask myself "Why did I over-react like that?" and usually "I wish I hadn't over-reacted but I couldn't stop myself!" Or I blame the other person for "making me" react the way I did and I lose another friend.
If this sounds at all familiar then it's going to be well worthwhile reading on....
Over-reacting is one of the more obvious signs that tells you that you may have got yourself automatically 'hot-wired' to one of your hidden core beliefs. You have been triggered. Over-reactions like this are closely linked to core beliefs and are described as the 'F' reactions.
You are probably already familiar with two of the most common reaction patterns "Fighting" and "Fleeing". But almost as common are many other 'F' reactions like "Staying but Folding" or "Forget the Whole Thing" or Freezing.
Your F reaction patterns are the easiest part of the whole process to look at, so they are the best place to start work.
Ready? Go to Typical over-reactions - the 'F' patterns
3. Getting out of the old reaction patterns
You can't change the belief that causes the over-reaction but you can change the reaction patterns themselves. Your triggered F reaction is the one part of the whole process that you can observe clearly particularly if it's happening over and over again.
At this point there are a couple of warnings about how not to go about it. It's no good trying to "change" beliefs or or get rid of them totally. I will explain as I go why that cannot happen, and why there is a far better way that works. First let's see if I can explain a bit about what core beliefs are, where they come from, what they do. and why they do it.
Fable - The case of the stolen self-esteem
Examples of negative core beliefs - is yours on this list?
4. Getting to know Your Core Beliefs
Where did they come from? Why they came into your life? Strange as it may seem as soon as you begin appreciating the way they helped you as a child they begin to lose some of their intensity.
The self-fulfilling prophecy trap
At this point you can start to understand what is underneath your individual reaction patterns.
Why you react when a core belief is triggered
More about core beliefs - Resonance
Why you cannot remove or change or alter or engineer a core belief
What you can do instead - practical steps for balancing negative and positive beliefs
The Trouble With Unbalanced Beliefs (coming soon)
5. What can I do about all this?
Become aware of what is happening inside you, and how much of this is being driven by your negative core beliefs.
Identify your own core beliefs
Understanding different kinds of belief
Increase your self-awareness (and figure out what's holding you back)
Make a list of the things that Trigger You?
6. Core Belief Balancing
Identify your own Core Beliefs using do-it-yourself worksheets at home.
Save a fortune on therapist's fees and do a better job yourself.
Example: Core Belief work sheet 4a
The worksheets will help you to understand:
* Why you cannot remove or change or alter or engineer a core belief
* What you can do instead - balance the negative and positive beliefs
Five Gifts from Your Old negative core belief Honouring the ways the old belief helped in your childhood.
7. "Is it really safe for me to change? Am I ready?"
Making changes in your life using the methods described in these pages is great , but only if you feel ready to change. And that includes self assurance about change itself. It's better not to make changes until you feel really confident about them and their effect on your life. The methods we describe here do work, but the changes can be fast and powerful. It's important to understand what is going to happen before you begin. Then you can make your changes with confidence.
Negative Core Beliefs and your Inner child -If you are troubled by feelings of being blocked or clamped or repetitive self-defeating patterns in your life you may be interested in our inner child website
Websites in our Growing Awareness and Flying Awareness Series -
narcissistic-behaviour-patterns-nbp.com
www.keys-to-personal-power.com
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